I have been seeing someone for the past two and half years he says he wants to get married we have had a istakhara done (an Imam at his Mosque)

Jazakallah for requesting assistance from the institute. You write that your intended husband is experiencing anxiety as he is unsure about your sincerity.%0D%0A%0D%0AI would firstly like to point out to you that as you are not married yet, you should abstain from seeing and speaking to him. It is not acceptable in Islam to be in constant contact with a non-mahram male. You could ask your parents to speak to him and reassure him that you are sincere in your intentions. If the local imaam or a respected elder knows your parents well, it may help if he speaks to the young man and reassures him about your family background and your character.%0D%0A%0D%0AIt is important for him to deal with the " emotional baggage" he is still carrying with him. It appears he has lost trust in 'women' due to his previous experience with his first wife. If what you say is correct, then he should consider going for counselling and to work through and deal with his past in a realistic manner. He needs to make a fresh start. He has doubts about your sincerity but what he needs to do is to focus on his own reasoning and anxieties. It is possible that this problem could impinge on his future interactions and relationship with you.%0D%0A%0D%0AI suggest that you continue to perform lots of tahajjud salaah, increase recitation of the Holy Quran, zikr, darood shareef and make lots of istigfaar too. Make duas specifically for your needs. May Allah Ta'ala guide both of you. Ameen.%0D%0A%0D%0Aand Allah Ta'ala Knows Best%0D%0A%0D%0A1SOCIAL DEPT.%0D%0A%0D%0ACHECKED AND APPROVED: Mufti Ebrahim Desai