Fatwa #1470711 November 2006United States of America
iam in a huge dilemma,i got married 2 weeks back to a muslim guy in a mosque ,we knew each other for almost 4 years and his parents did not agree for our wedding,my husband refused to have a valimah party
Question
iam in a huge dilemma,i got married 2 weeks back to a muslim guy in a mosque ,we knew each other for almost 4 years and his parents did not agree for our wedding,my husband refused to have a valimah party to announce our nikah.now he doesnt introduce me as his wife ,he says we should wait another 4 to 5 months to let people know about our nikah.i feel very hurt as iam in nikah with him why cant i be respected as his wife ,i hope ALLAH guides him.pls advise me if it is alright to keep the nikah secret.jazakallah
Answer
Muhtaram
Assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu
Rasulullah (Sallalahu Alayhi Wasallam) advised to announce the Nikah. That is so everyone knows about the husband and wife relationship. To keep a Nikah secret is against announcing a Nikah. Why did you marry if your husband was not prepared to announce the marriage and openly regard you as his wife? Nevertheless, the secret Nikah is valid.
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