Fatwa #640213 August 2002South Africa
A very close family friend and his family did not attend my grandfathers funeral. Because of this certain members of my family are still keeping a grudge against them
Question
Because of this certain members of my family are still keeping a grudge against them. Even the small children have begun to dislike this family friend and his family. I have advised my family members that they should just forget that these friends did not attend as im sure there was a good reason as to why they could not make it to the funeral. other members of my family keep no grudge but keep saying that will forget that these friends did not attend the funeral, but they will NEVER forgive them. Could mufti saheb please advise
Answer
Attending the funeral of a friend's relative is not imperative. It is up to
the individual to decide whether he wishes to go or not. It is grossly
unfair for the family members to bear a grudge against this family friend
simply for not attending the funeral. He, probably, had a valid excuse.
and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best
Mufti Muhammad Kadwa
FATWA DEPT.
CHECKED AND APPROVED: Mufti Ebrahim Desai
the individual to decide whether he wishes to go or not. It is grossly
unfair for the family members to bear a grudge against this family friend
simply for not attending the funeral. He, probably, had a valid excuse.
and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best
Mufti Muhammad Kadwa
FATWA DEPT.
CHECKED AND APPROVED: Mufti Ebrahim Desai