In marrying Christian, her parents have been planing her marriage for quite sometime and i don't want to ruin it, am i allowed to have 2 different marriages, one for Islam, and one for Christianity?

1. Nabi (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said "Whosoever adds to the (i.e. adds%0D%0Ato their number by taking part) gathering of a certain people (joins them in%0D%0Asin if they are Muslims or takes part in their ceremony or cusstom if they%0D%0Aare non-Muslim), he will be reckoned among them." This Hadith and numerous%0D%0Aothers like it directly forbid sharing in the practices%2F ceremonies of%0D%0Anon-Muslims. Therefore, it is not permissible to be present in a christian%0D%0Amarriage ceremony, not even as an observer. See also (Marriage to%0D%0AAhle-Kitaab women-attached)%0D%0A2. Parents marrying of their children against their will is a practice of%0D%0AJaahiliyyah (Period of ignorance) not sanctioned by Islam. There is a whole%0D%0Achapter of Ahadith instructing the Waliyy (Guardians) to seek permission%0D%0Afrom their charges before marrying them off. Similarly, there are many%0D%0AAhadith describing the qualities one should seek in a spouse. This would not%0D%0Abe possible if one did not have a choice in the matter. At the same time%0D%0Ahowever, Islam has prohibited free intermingling of sexes due to the%0D%0Aundeniable Fitnah (mischief) arising thereof. Therefore free contact between%0D%0AGhair Mahaarim without necessity is forbidden. Marriage, however is a real%0D%0Anecessity and has been recognised as such by Islam, in as much as a slight%0D%0Arelaxation of the prohibition. A prospective spouse has been allowed to see%0D%0Awithout Hijaab, those parts of the body which are not Awrah for her%2F his%0D%0Amahram relatives. Due to everpresent Fitnah, even now free contact is not%0D%0Aallowed. This does not mean that a person is unable to find out about the%0D%0Acharacter etc of the intended spouse. He %2Fshe will definitely have Mahram%0D%0Arelatives of the same sex that they could communicate through, should the%0D%0Aneed arise. This system has worked well enough for fourteen centuries of%0D%0AIslam and continues to work more efficiently than the Kufr system of free%0D%0Acontact. This is evident from the great disparaty in the divoce rate between%0D%0Ae.g. America and Saudi Arabia. The high divorce rate in western countries%0D%0Aspeaks for itself. Despite intimate aquaintance before marriage, why, then%0D%0Ais divorce rate still soaring?%0D%0A%0D%0Aand Allah Ta'ala Knows Best%0D%0A%0D%0AMufti Bilaal Cassim%0D%0AFATWA DEPT.%0D%0A%0D%0ACHECKED AND APPROVED: Mufti Ebrahim Desai