Fatwa #422021 December 2001United Kingdom
I want to get married to a muslim girl but her parnets won't let her. They want some else for her.
Question
I have been with this girl for 17 months, we have spent nights together. I know what we did is wronge and i would like to get married to her. But she is affraid that if we did get married her parents would have nothing to do with her. Please advice me further. Salam
Answer
Before answering your query, we advise you to immediately severe every type%0D%0Aof relationship with the girl. Adultery invites the anger and wrath of%0D%0AAllah. You and the girl should exercise restraint and sincerely repent to%0D%0AAllah. One can never attain peace and happiness while violating the orders%0D%0Aof Allah. It is the month of Ramaddan and an ideal opportunity to repent and%0D%0Achange your vision and approach to life. As regards to marrying the girl,%0D%0Athe blessings of her parents is important for her personal peace and%0D%0Ahappiness. She should discuss the matter with her parents and openly explain%0D%0Aher feelings towards you. She and her parents should make Istikhara (seek%0D%0Adivine guidance) as well as make Mashura (consult) responsible people in%0D%0Amaking a decision. You should also do the same. The girl should apply wisdom%0D%0Aand diplomacy in conveying to her parents the Islamic procedure of Istikhara%0D%0Aand Mashura in making a decision.%0D%0A%0D%0Aand Allah Ta'ala Knows Best%0D%0A%0D%0AMufti Ebrahim Desai%0D%0AFATWA DEPT.%0D%0A