Fatwa #3837627 November 2017Canada
My wife dosent like oral sex
Question
Assalaamu `alaykum
I have a question, actually I want to have oral sex with my wife. But my wife does not at all want to give me oral sex. I told her its halal and that it is my right to get oral sex as its part of main marriage goal to satisfy spouse.
Please advice what should we do? Is there any sin if she does not listen to her husband on this matter? Should the wife not obey their husbands? Please explain so we both can benefit and take your answer..
thank you so much
Answer
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
One of the etiquettes of conjugal relationship is to be considerate of the sound feelings and temperament of the spouse. Oral sex is disliked and against sound temperament. There are many halal ways to fulfil your carnal desires with your spouse. Your wife is within sound reason to refuse your unsound request.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.