Fatwa #327218 November 2001Pakistan
Ettiquettes of Itimate Relationship?
Question
What are the Ettiquettes of intimate Relationship with Wife. And second question is about, when husband call his wife to bed and she refuse to without any legitimate is cursed. Is this is same for a man when he refuse to fulfil his wife desire when she is in need? JazzakAllah
Answer
Du'aa before commencing intercourse:%0D%0AAllaahumma Jannibnaa minas shaytaani wa jannibihs shaytaana maa razaqtanaa%0D%0A(Trans: O Allah! Save us from Shaytaan and prevent Shaytaan from that which%0D%0Ayou have gran child)%0D%0A%0D%0ADu'aa to be recited at the time of ejaculation (in the mind, not verbally):%0D%0AAllaahumma Laa Taj-al lish-shaytaana fee maa razaqtanaa%0D%0A(Trans: O Allah, do not grant Shaytaan any share from that which you have%0D%0Agranted me)%0D%0A%0D%0A* Make intention to maintain chastity%0D%0A* Perform Wudhu, use the Miswaak, apply Itr, etc.%0D%0A* Foreplay. The partners should arouse each another sufficiently before%0D%0Aindulging in the actual act.%0D%0A* Recite the respective Du'aas in their respective times%0D%0A* After play. After ejaculation the male should not withdraw until his wife%0D%0Aachieves climax and satisfaction.%0D%0A* Attain purity by having a bath as soon as possible after intercourse. If%0D%0Aone wishes to sleep then, he%2Fshe should at least wash his%2Fher private part%0D%0Aand make Wudhu before sleeping.%0D%0A* Complete nudity should be avoided. Both partners should undress under a%0D%0Asheet and at least keep that over them throughout the intercourse.%0D%0A* One should refrain from facing the Qiblah during intercourse.%0D%0A* Intercourse should be refrained from: a) On a full stomach, b) Whilst%0D%0Acurbing the urge to urinate or defecate, and c) When one of the partners is%0D%0Aill, especially during fever and when the eyes are sore.%0D%0A%0D%0Aand Allah Ta'ala Knows Best%0D%0A%0D%0AMufti Ebrahim Desai%0D%0AFATWA DEPT.%0D%0A