Is reconciliation necessary if it may lead to further arguments?

After my father passed away many years ago, my uncles always
tried to take advantage of myself and my siblings in anything that was benefitting
them, not necessarily in the monetary affairs, but mainly in the worldly
affairs. As a result of all that, when my siblings and myself, we grew up, over
a period of time, the hostility built up and now, we are not having healthy
relations between us. They do not visit us and we do likewise.

However, if I or any of my siblings come across them by
chance, we say salaam to them and they reply. We feel bad about the way they
dealt with us in the past, but we have forgiven them and I even make dua for
them whenever I visit the Haramain.

I realise that the Prophet of Allah SAW said that Allah will
not forgive those who severe the bond of kinship and it makes me worried.

Is forgiving the other person, a reconciliation that is
enough, or reconciliation in person is necessary, because I even do not have a
problem in doing a reconciliation in person, but it may open the doors for some
further arguments, as they would having their own version of the story, having
issues and complaints against me.

Moreover, at the same time, I also want to prevent myself and
my family in future from the Fitnah they will cause, if we start mixing with
them freely again after reconciling, as staying away from such people would be better, I feel
with the little wisdom that I have.

Please advise what could be the best course of action in
this situation?

If reconciliation in person is required, is it allowed for
me then, to reconcile with them and still stay away from them in future?