Fatwa #787030 January 2003India
when it comes to marriage he says i will have to wait for him b'coz he has to fulfill his family needs first, he never gives me a definite answer please tell me should i have to wait for him or not
Question
I am in love with one person for the past 7 years.i am 27 years. when it comes to marriage he says i will have to wait for him b'coz he has to fulfill his family needs first, he never gives me a definite answer please tell me should i have to wait for him or not, i am not a virgin any more & I deeply regret about my past, please help if i can marry some one else b?coz there is one person who loves me a lot & wants to marry me do i have to tell him about my past life to the one i marry if I don?t tell him am I not cheating him?
Answer
At the outset, we wish to advise you that it is Haraam for a strange man and women to have any contact whatsoever.
Nevertheless, the boy in reference seem to be using you to fulfil his passion as he is not giving a definite answer of marriage. It seems that he may leave you and cause ruin to your life. We suggest you sever relations with him immediately. Our humble opinion is that you contact the responsible people of your family and request them about about the second boy with regards to marriage.
It is not necessary to inform him about the past. Make Tawbah and seek repentance from Allah for the past.
and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
Nevertheless, the boy in reference seem to be using you to fulfil his passion as he is not giving a definite answer of marriage. It seems that he may leave you and cause ruin to your life. We suggest you sever relations with him immediately. Our humble opinion is that you contact the responsible people of your family and request them about about the second boy with regards to marriage.
It is not necessary to inform him about the past. Make Tawbah and seek repentance from Allah for the past.
and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai