Fatwa #623928 July 2002Oman
My mother took a loan from me and now forgot about it,should i ask about my debt?
Question
My mother couple of times took loan from me & forgot about it,i never ask about that,but she gave us money on some occasion and tell everyone that i gave my daughter this amount of money.Problem is that she might not remember it but this breaks my heart.And also she is kind of arrogant and i do not know how to deal with her.What should i do about it?
Answer
It would be a great favour to your mother if you considered your loan to her
as an assistance to your mother than regarding it as a debt or a loan.
However, it will be permissible to remind her in the most dignified manner,
about the debt or loan. Treat your mother with utmost kind and love and talk
to her in the most kind way. The Qur'aan states with regards to dealing with
parents, 'and do not even utter to them (parents) 'uff', and do not scold
them, instead tell them compassionate words.'
The word 'uff' refers to such words that would hurt their feelings or which
would result in showing disrespect to them.
and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
as an assistance to your mother than regarding it as a debt or a loan.
However, it will be permissible to remind her in the most dignified manner,
about the debt or loan. Treat your mother with utmost kind and love and talk
to her in the most kind way. The Qur'aan states with regards to dealing with
parents, 'and do not even utter to them (parents) 'uff', and do not scold
them, instead tell them compassionate words.'
The word 'uff' refers to such words that would hurt their feelings or which
would result in showing disrespect to them.
and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai