Fatwa #54937 May 2002India
I am going to marry with Christen girl we love each other but our parents not going to accepting us
Question
1)- I am going to marry with Christen girl we love each other but our parents not going to accepting us, so we are going to marry in the court two Muslim witnesses is marriage is valid and still she is not accept Islam I hope she will accept Islam later. 2)- If the baby born it will grow as Muslim or christen, and I am working abroad she is living alone, when I am not home the baby born with me and as per Islam nobody give Azan in baby ear. Kindly give me some good examples from your said shall I marry her or not. If I will not marry she will suicide what shall I do? I promise to her I am going to with marry her, (I am Indian National) Jazak Allah Khair. 3) I started to teach her about Islam and I print all you answers, giving to her she is reading, please pray for me and for all Muslim in the world. Give me your suggestion.
Answer
Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said, 'One person getting guidance%0D%0Athrough you is better than red camels (being expensive and a luxury of that%0D%0Atime).'%0D%0A%0D%0AIn view of the above, if the Christian female gets Hidaayat through you, it%0D%0Ais highly commendable. However, marriage has major implications. It is not%0D%0Ajust being a means of guidance. It is two people staying together and%0D%0Asharing almost everything of theirs. Such a close relationship require%0D%0Acompatibility and understanding. While there are many men who married%0D%0AChristian women have successfully introduced them to Islam and live a%0D%0Acomfortable life, there are also many who experience major marital life%0D%0Aproblems due to non-compatibility. In the beginning, their intentions may%0D%0Ahave been noble but with continuous disputes, they begin resenting one%0D%0Aanother.%0D%0A%0D%0AMany such woman revert to Christianity and the sin of that is worse than not%0D%0Ainitially accepting Islam. It is, therefore, advisable that you exercise%0D%0Acaution and don't hasten in your decision. Mashura (consultation) with your%0D%0Aseniors is important. You should also make Istikhaara and continuously make%0D%0ADu'aa. Insha Allah, Allah will guide you towards whatever is best for you.%0D%0A%0D%0Aand Allah Ta'ala Knows Best%0D%0A%0D%0AMufti Ebrahim Desai