Fatwa #4542917 September 2020Saudi Arabia
Intimacy related questions
Question
This is the third time I am asking this question since the 4th of May - THERE IS NO RESPONSE YET.
I have read your fatwa 34234 regarding use of sex toys to please one's wife. In that you have mentioned, among others, the following two conditions:
1.3) It should not be inserted into the inner-private part of the women; rather only such toys should be used that stimulate the outer private parts, such as the clitoris,
1.4) The tool of intercourse is the private organ of the Man, thus usage of any “aids/toys” can only be to complement this tool and not to substitute it,
In this regard:
- I need to understand what is the basis of point 1.3 above? The understanding I have of religion, is that unless something is explicitly prohibited (e.g. anal sex, sex during menses), it is not haraam (e.g. sex toys, oral sex). Is point 1.3 above then based on the risk of the toy substituting the private organ of man (point 1.4)?
- If so, would it be ok to use sex toys that are inserted into private organ of the woman along with the private organ of man to complement the man’s private organ rather than substitute it (this would be like how a condom is used)?
- There are certain sex toys that are in the form of a clip, to be inserted into the inner-private part of the woman that stimulate all three: the clitoris, the inside of the private part of the woman and the private part of man during the act of penetrative intercourse (that is, again it does not substitute the private part of man, only complements it during its operation for the pleasure of both husband and wife). Would this be ok?
Answer
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Shari’ah has permitted a couple to derive pleasure/benefit from any part of each other’s bodies. This includes mutual masturbation.[1]
Inserting any foreign object into the Al-Farj-ud-Daakhil (Labia Minora) of one’s wife is discouraged,[2] [3] and one should endeavour to abstain from such.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
المحيط البرهاني في الفقه النعماني (5/ 332) [1]
وعن أبي يوسف في «الأمالي» قال: سألت أبا حنيفة رضي الله عنه عن الرجل يمس فرج امرأته، أو تمس هي فرجه ليتحرك عليها؛ هل ترى بذلك بأساً؟ قال: أرجو أن يعظم الأجر
الدر المختار وحاشية ابن عابدين (رد المحتار) (6/ 367)
وكان ابن عمر - رضي الله تعالى عنهما - يقول: الأولى أن ينظر ليكون أبلغ في تحصيل معنى اللذة اهـ لكن في شرحها للعيني أن هذا لم يثبت عن ابن عمر لا بسند صحيح ولا بسند ضعيف، وعن أبي يوسف سألت أبا حنيفة عن الرجل يمس فرج امرأته، وهي تمس فرجه ليتحرك عليها هل ترى بذلك بأسا قال: لا وأرجو أن يعظم الأجر ذخيرة
المحيط البرهاني (1/ 215) [2]
وعن محمد بن سلمة البلخي رحمه الله أنه يكره للمرأة أن تضع الكرسف في الفرج الداخل، قال: لأن ذلك يشبه النكاح بيدها
الدر المختار وحاشية ابن عابدين (رد المحتار) (1/ 289)
وفي شرح الوقاية: وضع الكرسف مستحب للبكر في الحيض وللثيب في كل حال، وموضعه موضع البكارة، ويكره في الفرج الداخل. اهـ
ذخر المتاهلين بشرحه المنهل الواردين (171)
(و يكره وضغه) اي: وضع جميعه (في الفرج الداخل) لانه يشبه النكاح بيدها، محيط
[3] Islamic Guide to Sexual Relations pg 68
References
- Islamic Guide to Sexual Relations pg 68