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Fatwa #396612 March 2002United States of America

I am always having suspicions about my husband cheating...please help.

Question

Assalam alaikum, Im constantly suspicious about my husbands whereabouts, im driving myself crazy thinking that he's cheating on me.I always seem to find myself unattractive, and comparing myself with the women that my husband works with. I wear a full hijab, and sometimes my husband takes advantage of that, saying that no one will find me attractive anyway. I even had a dream of him cheating on me a couple of times. This is causing so much problems between my husband and I, and our 5 kids are always trying to stop us from fighting. please help me with some Du'aa so I can overcome my jealousy. Jazakallah Khair.

Answer

Hereunder are some advises:%0D%0A1. Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) advised, 'Keep away from Zann%0D%0A(Baseless doubts) as that is the biggest lie.' Be positive in your approach.%0D%0AAllah Ta'ala has granted you the most beautiful asset - the beauty of Imaan.%0D%0AYou safeguard your physical beauty only for your husband. You are different%0D%0Aand unique from those women who leave their home. They are beautified by the%0D%0AShaytaan for all and sundry. Be rest assured and your husband appreciates%0D%0Athe one and solely dedicated to him.%0D%0A2. If both of you are not partaking meals from one plate, start eating in%0D%0Aone plate. This will also create Mahabbat.%0D%0A3. As soon as he comes home; a) Meet him with a cheerful face, b) Beautify%0D%0Aand perfume yourself, c) Start with good news and delay any bad news until%0D%0Ahe has rested, d) Receive him with loving sentences, e) Make an effort for%0D%0Aexcellence of the food and having it ready on time.%0D%0A4. Start collective recitation of the Kitaab, 'Fadhaail-e-Aamaal' by%0D%0AShaykhul Hadith Moulana Zakariyyah - it has proved effective.%0D%0A5. Du'aas to remove restlessness and grief, 'Yaa Hayy, Yaa Qayyoom, bi%0D%0Arahmatika astagheeth'. Hadhrat Anas ibn Maalik (RA) narrates that whenever%0D%0ARasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) was overcame with any restlessness%0D%0Aor sorrow he would read the above Du'aa.%0D%0A6. For Muhabbat (love and affection) between the husband and wife, recite%0D%0A1000 times 'Yaa Wadood'.%0D%0A%0D%0ANote: Jealousy is a sign for a wife's love for her husband but it should be%0D%0Akept within the limits of Islam.%0D%0A%0D%0Aand Allah Ta'ala Knows Best%0D%0A%0D%0AMufti Ebrahim Desai
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