Fatwa #38943 April 2002South Africa
my life is falling apart ... Why is Allah so cruel?
Question
I am so unhappy,and I believe that Allah doesnt care for me.All I want is to be happily married.Ive been making so much of dua,whenever I come across a new dua or zikr for marriage I read it.Nothing works,I dont feel like reading anymore,there is no point.These past few nights Ive been making dua for death,I know its a sin,but I cant take anymore.This loneliness is killing me.Im embarrassed to go out,all my cousins and friends are married.My parents are also embarrased by this.Why is Allah so cruel?Please help me
Answer
As Mu'mins (believers), our Imaan (faith) is on Taqdeer. Taqdeer refers to%0D%0Athe Divine measure by Allah Ta'ala in which every creation's life is%0D%0Adesigned according to His (Allah's) infinite wisdom. The wisdom of Allah Ta'%0D%0Aala's decrees may not be comprehended by our limited understanding.%0D%0A%0D%0AThere are many who are wealthy (having the means of peace) yet at grief.%0D%0AThere are many who have children (to be the coolness of their eyes) yet at%0D%0Aagony. There are married couples (to show peace and contentment) yet leading%0D%0Amarital life of distress regretting their marriage commitment. At this stage%0D%0Aof your life, you should do two things;%0D%0Aa) Maintain your gaze on Allah Ta'ala and never despair as despondency is a%0D%0Asign of Kufr. It is possible a person makes unbecoming statements in the%0D%0Astate of despondence,%0D%0Ab) Ponder upon the lesser privileged. There are those who were married and%0D%0Adivorced after becoming victims of abuse which is common today. Listen to%0D%0Atheir agonizing incidents and that will enhance your instinct to thank Allah%0D%0ATa'ala for your condition. Our community is filled with such people.%0D%0A%0D%0AWe also advise you recite Surah Dahr in the 29 Juz as well as recite 500%0D%0Atimes Durood Shareef everyday. Our responsibility is to continue making Du'%0D%0Aaa and await Allah's decision. Despondency is certainly not a solution to%0D%0Ayour grief. May Allah Ta'ala grant you a prosperous future, Aameen.%0D%0A%0D%0Aand Allah Ta'ala Knows Best%0D%0A%0D%0AMufti Ebrahim Desai