Fatwa #35327 August 2000Pakistan
Pakistani parents favour their traditions in choosing marriage partner for son.
Question
My parents have spoken about marriage. They would like me to marry someone close to the family, a cousin. I may not choose to do this. They believe if I marry a women outside the family she would not treat me well. They refer to other women as dirty and inconsiderate. I can't help feeling they are following their traditions more than anything. In Islam the guideline is: so long she is a good Muslim. I am keen on marrying a girl (known for a while). I am scared if I approach my parents regarding her they will not approve for the simple reason that she is not close to the family. Should I please my parents or put up a reasonable discussion concerning their ways?
Answer
We suggest you put up a reasonable discussion with your parents and inform
them politely that according to Islam, the individual has a right to choose.
Of course, he should consult with his seniors (parents, etc.) and also make
Istikhaara (seek divine guidance).
and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
them politely that according to Islam, the individual has a right to choose.
Of course, he should consult with his seniors (parents, etc.) and also make
Istikhaara (seek divine guidance).
and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai