Fatwa #1921121 April 2011Pakistan
My inlaws are delaying my Nikah
Question
Dear Sir, Assalam o alikum Thank you so much for your reply i ask you before that after nikkah my in laws are delaying our marriage and in this case can i claim about my rights and you reply me but i have one more question regarding this that is when i told my husband regarding your reply he said no you can claim about your rights when we got complete marriage at the moment you are in your home i cant full fill your demands and he cannot even come to meet me i just want to spend some time with him because i m his wife i dnt want to have relations of husband wife i just need his company now i want to ask you in this case if i meet someone else not physically just to satisfy my self emotionally than who will be sinful me or my husband?plz reply me i will not meet someone i will try to be patient but in case i did this who will be responsible of my action?
Answer
Assalāmu `alaikum Warahmatullāhi Wabrakatuh,
If you are married , it is your husband’s responsibility to provide maintenance, shelter and clothing for you.
After being marriage it is not appropriate to delay the couple being together for an unreasonable period of time. If the delay is from the husband’s side, his excuse of not completely married for not fulfilling his marital obligations is not correct.
Once the Nikah is performed, the married is complete. The husband must fulfill his marital obligations to his wife. If he fails to do so, he will be sinful.
Nevertheless, you should exercise restraint until you are with your husband to fulfill your base desires, physical and emotional.
You cannot fulfill your base desires through anyone else.
If you do so, you will be sinful for committing such an immorality. Yes, if your husband is negligent in staying with you after marriage and not fulfilling your base desires, he too will be sinful for his negligence as well as being a cause for you to commit sin.
And Allah Ta'āla Knows Best,
Muftī Ebrahim Desai
Daruliftaa
35 Candella Rd, Durban, South Africa