Fatwa #180187 June 2009Saudi Arabia
Is it ok if she lives with her uncle?
Question
I have this question which your self need to look very carefully from all angles to give me a reply.i have been married recen tly in india i am staying in riyadh, i have father in law but no mother in law the girl whom i am married said she was brought up in her uncles house after her mother died when she was in class 10.after marriage she will make lot arguements with me, never obeys me, often goes to her uncles house (uncle meant here mothers sisters husband)never listen to advice of her father, lies on many things.in my marriage her father and step moth er were present and its that they full filled all the formalities.
my question is in this context
After marriage what is the status of her uncle???
Is it correct she being with the uncle in his home ???
Is that correct she refuses to listen to her father???
Answer
In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful
Assalaamu `alaykum waRahmatullahi Wabarakatuh
In view of the information you have provided concerning your wife, we state:
1. Your wife’s uncle (mother’s sister’s husband) is a non mahram to her. She has to observe the laws of Hijāb in his regard.
2. Your wife grew up in her uncle’s home after the demise of her mother. He had supported and taken care of her in that period. It is fair that she visits him and expresses her gratitude to him for that. As her husband, you should also support this moral responsibility.
However, it is important that she fulfils this moral responsibility maintaining the laws of Sharī’ah. You are her husband and she cannot visit him without your consent. Furthermore, her uncle is a non mahram to her. She has to observe the laws of Hijāb in his regard. Therefore, we advise that both of you visit the uncle from time to time. In this manner, the laws of Sharī’ah will be maintained and the moral responsibility will be fulfilled.
3. She should listen to the advices of her father. It is incorrect for her to be disrespectful to him.
And Allah knows best
Checked and Approved by:
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
Darul Iftaa