Fatwa #1470111 November 2006South Africa
My problem stems from motherin-law versus daughter-in law:
Question
Salaams Mufti
My problem stems from motherin-law versus daughter-in law:
Mufti I am married for 4 years and living with my parents, my father passed away this year which leaves me with my mother only.My only sister is also recently married.The tension stated early in my marriage but we control it.Knowing quite well my mother's temper I made dua for peace in our home, allah has blessed me with a son who is now 1 yeard 10 months and alhamduldillah my wife is expexting again .This Ramaddan that went by is where te problem got out of control but we kept quiet.Just after ramaddan my mother phones my mother-in law to say that she must teach her daughter manners, and from in all started turning sour, families got involve nasty words were spoken and as we speak now my wife is at her mothers place refusing to come back but only if I find separate flat she will come back. My problem is:
1. I cannot maintain two houses at the same time?
2. I want to stay with my mother as she is alone and has no income?
3.Must I force my wife back as we are not speaking?
4.Must I provide separte flat?
Shuukran
Answer
Muhtaram
Assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu
There is no point in us advising you what to do. Your wife will have to agree. It does not help you not talking to your wife. You should open communication with her and discuss your difficulties with her. It is important that both of you arrive jointly at a solution.
And Allah Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
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