Fatwa #1463814 October 2006South Africa
i am to be married soon and i would like to know what the ruling is on the following questions (excuse the nature of the questions)
Question
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i am to be married soon and i would like to know what the ruling is on the following questions (excuse the nature of the questions)
1. can i ejaculate on my wifes face, breasts, hands or feet.
2. can i ejaculate in her mouth but she does not have to swallow and she rinses her mouth afterwoods
3. can i use a dildo on my wife with her permission (both in her anus and vagina)
4. can i shave her pubic hair
5. can i urinate on my wife with her permission
6. I was told that anal sex is forbidden as the anus is unclean for muslims, but can i have anal sex with my wife if i wear a condom that way there is no skin contact between her rectum and my anus.
7. can i videotape us having sex if can ensure that the tape will not be leaked or released or can i hire someone else to tape us having sex if can ensure that the tape will not be leaked or released
8. can i marry another wife without her permission
9. can i have sex with my slaves even if i'm not married to them and what constitutes a slave in todays world.
10. Can i have rough sex with my wife ie. spanking shoking slapping if she agrees
11. can my wife and i make ghusl together
again i apologise for the nature of these questions but i could not find the answers anywhere on the net and i'm too shy to ask my local imam. Also if you could email me the answers as well i would appreciate it
jazaakallah
Answer
Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullah
Brother/Sister in Islam
Answers to your questions:
1) No
2) No
3) No
4) Undesirable
5) Haram and a sin
6) No
7) No
8) Yes, if you can do complete justice.
9) There are no Islamically recognized slaves today.
10) Undesirable
11) Do not lose sight of shame and modesty.
And Allah Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
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