Fatwa #1181825 June 2004Pakistan
Please propose some DUA. i want my married life PERFACT one in every regard also advice me good manners that i practice with my wife to be a PERFACT husbandSpecial thanks Regards Bilal
Question
AOA Special thanks for such a nice web site to help us out in our day to day stuff if possible please answer my Q ASAP i am a male 26y old. get married few weeks back. as i was involved in masturbation. but i have left it year ago and medication was done and doctor was satisfied with the results. ALHUMDULILAH i pray daily and trying to be good muslim also perform hajj last year and try to make my self better then i was. but now after merrage i have some problem (unable to be hard at approprate time and get soften too early. pre mature ejection etc). i am getting abit medicin but also like if you help me in proposing some DUA. i want my married life PERFACT one in every regard also advice me good manners that i practice with my wife to be a PERFACT husband Special thanks Regards Bilal
Answer
Masha Allah that you changed your life. Start by making sincere tauba, cry%0D%0Ain repentance for every sin committed from the time you became of age till%0D%0Anow regretting upon it making a firm intention never to return to it. Then%0D%0Amake dua for all your needs, requirements and difficulties. Tauba removes%0D%0Adifficulties, duas are answered, sustenance increase too, Insha Allah.%0D%0A%0D%0AAs far as your problem, masturbation does weaken the body, seek also help%0D%0Afrom Allah Ta'ala on this aspect. Nevertheless to increase stamina%2F libido%0D%0Aeat foods that build vitality, like dates ,meat products etc. As far as%0D%0Apre-mature ejaculation also may stem from insecurity, guilt, helplessness,%0D%0Aproblems, tension etc. Address these issues. Read the book on sexual%0D%0Aetiquettes in Islaam, build your relationship psychological then on a%0D%0Aemotional and physical with your wife with love, foreplay and afterplay.%0D%0AHelp discover each other and share your feelings. You may have a few%0D%0Aattempts of failure, do not despair Insha Allah it will come right. However%0D%0Ahelp your wife with afterplay to climax, etc. If you have finished consider%0D%0Aher feelings and needs it does affect her self-esteem.%0D%0A%0D%0AMay Allah Ta'ala remove your difficulties.%0D%0A%0D%0AWas Salaam%0D%0A%0D%0A2Social Dept.%0D%0A%0D%0ACHECKED AND APPROVED: Mufti Ebrahim Desai%0D%0A%0D%0ANB. As a perfect husband read about how our Beloved Nabi (Sallallahu Alayhi%0D%0AWasallam) treated his wives in the home in His (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam)%0D%0Aattitude, care, love etc. Read also on your fulfilling your duties to your%0D%0Awife instead of demanding your rights. Overlook her faults, love her, give%0D%0Aher an allownace to which is completely personal not answerable should she%0D%0Awish to spend on herself on charity, gifts etc. Insha Allah you developing%0D%0Agood Akhlaaq will earn you high standards Insha Allah . Uswaai -e-Rasool%0D%0Ae-Akram (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) is a highly recommended Kitaab in this%0D%0Afield.